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oh tumblr. i am not doing so well these days
FYI on the Facebook pronouns. I selected "them" and I now show up on my family's pages as their son/brother. I had my gender censored from them in a custom privacy setting but FB kinda inadvertently outed me. Just in case anyone is in the same boat, passing that along.
Oh wow. That’s kinda shitty—
Ahh, so not only are neutral pronouns getting masculine defaults for relation terms (really, it should be sibling, child, spouse, etc), relation terms aren’t ACLed.
This raises the question: how would you ACL those relationship terms? I mean, you have to put something there; otherwise that would flag as suspicious. I suppose showing gender-neutral terms as described above for anyone who doesn’t have the ACL is the obvious solution, but even that could be strange. I can just see: “My profile says you’re my ‘child’, now. What’s up with that?”
Really the ideal seems to be that, for safety, some people shouldn’t know you’ve set a custom gender.
So the real solution here is to allow a user to set multiple custom genders, each with a separate ACL list. So you can have a public / family view gender, and then a ‘for friends I’m out to’ gender, at a minimum.
In the meantime, signal boost, because this is going to be non-obvious to a whole lot of people and doesn’t seem to be documented anywhere.
The asexual Mammy and hypersexual Jezebel work together to suppress black women’s own liberated sexual ethics that reflects their perspectives, values, and humanity. Slavery’s stereotypes linking natural black femaleness to sexual promiscuity and black female respectability to sexlessness leave a crippled cultural language for black women to define an alternative sexual ethics.
There is a significant difference between the Mammy/Jezebel dichotomy and the Madonna/whore dichotomy, which helps to police white women’s sexual behavior. Black sexuality is defined as inherently and essentially immoral; the black female body represents promiscuity. Unlike black women, white women were never defined as animal-like and naturally immoral. Indeed, at the time of African enslavement, Victorian culture treated white women as essentially pure and moral, corruptible but not innately corrupted. Evelyn Brooks Higginbotham observes that the pervasive imagery of black female promiscuity had the effect of ‘ascrib[ing] pathological uniformity onto black women as a group, such that every black woman, regardless of her income, occupation, or education became the embodiment of deviance.’
Thus, redeeming the black female body has often meant desexualizing it. It is extremely difficult in a culture seeped with these slavery images to imagine a positive black female sexuality because black women’s bodies and behavior are so easily seen as depraved."
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